Four Pillars For Aspiring Leaders For Self-Discovery And Growth

So, you want to be a leader; you want to lead a team and deliver amazing results for your organisation. Of course, those rewards, perks, and other benefits are attractive, too. But have you thought about what leadership entails, what’s involved, and the consequences?

In this article, you will discover four pillars of leadership that need your due consideration if you are to navigate the highs and lows of being a leader in today’s challenging business environment.

  • Are you prepared for the personal sacrifices and impact on your relationships outside work?
  • Are you ready for the cognitive load that leaders face today as they tackle large-scale challenges and threats from all sides?
  • Do you know the stakeholder landscape and what it takes to mobilise your resources to achieve your goals?
  • Do you have the resilience to stay the course and bounce back when things go wrong?

Leadership, a coveted realm for the ambitious, beckons countless individuals with its promise of steering teams toward success. Yet, the true nature of leadership is a labyrinthine tapestry that demands much more than anticipated. It necessitates a profound shift in mindset and an unwavering embrace of novel challenges. Before embarking on this transformative odyssey, aspiring leaders must pause and reflect, mentally preparing themselves for the profound metamorphosis that awaits. Authentic leadership transcends the role of a mere conductor guiding an orchestra; it demands a transition from doing great work to thinking strategically.

But what foundational pillars should these aspiring leaders explore before immersing themselves in the depths of leadership?

Let us explore each pillar, accompanied by guiding questions that aid aspiring leaders in introspection, illuminating their preparedness.

The Personal Pillar: Striking A Harmonious Balance

Leadership roles, undeniably demanding, cast their immense influence upon every facet of your life. While these positions bestow countless benefits, they often exact sacrifices from aspiring leaders and their loved ones. Successful leaders comprehend the significance of involving their families in decision-making, establishing clear boundaries and fortifying a robust support system. Such support alleviates burdens, permitting leaders to wholeheartedly dedicate their time and energy to the demands of their roles.

  • How do you envision aligning your personal life with the demands of leadership?
  • What sacrifices are you willing to make in your quest for leadership?
  • Have you engaged in discussions with loved ones, considering their perspectives?
  • How can you establish clear boundaries between work and personal life to maintain a healthy equilibrium?
  • What support systems or resources can you assemble to navigate the leadership challenges?

The Cognitive Pillar: Embracing A Paradigm Shift

Leadership necessitates a cerebral metamorphosis, a transition to an entirely new modality of thinking about the world of work. Strategic and conceptual thinking empowers leaders to grasp the grand tapestry, connecting disparate data points and deploying creative problem-solving skills.

These cognitive capabilities complement the skills for managing, prioritising, organising and setting standards. Effective leaders empower those around them to think, fostering an environment where collective intelligence transcends the sum of its parts.

  • How comfortable are you with shedding the cloak of a “doer” mindset in favor of a strategic thinking mindset?
  • What new patterns of thought or skills must you cultivate to excel in a leadership role?
  • How can you foster a culture of strategic thinking and unleash creativity within your team?
  • Are there any blind spots or biases that might impede critical thinking and effective decision-making?
  • How can you motivate and empower your team members to harness their cognitive abilities, contributing to collective intelligence?

The Awareness Pillar: Navigating The Human Tapestry And The Surrounding Landscape

Esteemed leaders possess a heightened awareness of the individuals they lead and the landscapes within which they operate. Understanding people demands self-awareness and strong interpersonal skills, enabling leaders to comprehend and motivate their collaborators. This combination begets the necessary gravitas and influence. Awareness of the environment encompasses understanding the organisational structure, its politics and the broader market landscape, including competitors and emerging trends.

  • How well do you comprehend your strengths, weaknesses and motivations?
  • What steps can you take to enhance your self-awareness and emotional intelligence?
  • How can you foster robust relationships and effectively communicate with diverse individuals?
  • What strategies can you employ to remain abreast of internal dynamics within your organization and external market conditions?
  • How can you proactively anticipate and adapt to changes in your environment, surging ahead of the curve?

The Resilience Pillar: Flourishing Amid The Tempest

Mastery of resilience distinguishes triumphant leaders. They cultivate mental fortitude to withstand the demands of their roles and navigate setbacks, becoming the emotional anchors upon which their teams rely.

Even the most adept leaders face moments when the role pushes them to their limits. Therefore, leaders must develop coping strategies, recognise their reactions under stress and establish routines and techniques to sustain themselves during challenging periods.

  • Are there any self-limiting beliefs or patterns that might hinder your resilience?
  • How can you build a support network of mentors, colleagues or coaches to aid you during trying times?
  • What self-care practices and habits can you incorporate into your routine, perpetuating resilience in the long run?

Wrapping Up

Aspiring leaders must embark on an odyssey of self-discovery, delving into the depths of these four pillars before destiny thrusts them into leadership roles. This journey of discovery allows future leaders to assess their readiness, cultivating a profound understanding of the path ahead.

Leadership is not a destination but an enduring pursuit of excellence. Aspiring leaders can forge a path toward influential and fulfilling leadership by building solid foundations upon these four pillars, enriching their personal and professional lives.

This article first appeared on Forbes.com on 18th July 2023

Ricky has been a regular contributor to the Forbes Councils since 2023, where he shares his perspectives on all things leadership, change, culture and productivity, all with Thinking Focus’ unique perspective on metacognition, or as we prefer to say, thinking about thinking.

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What makes goals so essential to your success?

So, why are goals so important?

“It must be borne in mind that the tragedy of life doesn’t lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies in having no goals to reach.”

Benjamin E. Mays

The change over from one calendar year to another is a prime example of when your thoughts turn to ‘what the future might hold’ — and you start to think about the year ahead and make plans: join the gym to meet your health plans; you book holidays to cater for leisure plans and have something to look forward to. You may even want to change your job or career.

What do all these have in common? They are just dreams and wishes unless you convert them into a goal.

Let’s face it: how many gyms are full to bursting in January only to return to normal in February? How often do we say we will change our job only to remain in the same role at Christmas? Where most of us are better is the annual holiday, we get organised for this! Hmm, I wonder why?

New Year’s resolutions are a type of goal — badly flawed in most cases — because we do not clearly define them or attach a plan to them — and in most cases, we make them on a whim.

In this video, Ricky talks about three elements essential to making a New Year’s resolution work.

If you want to accomplish something you care about, it will involve defining goals — you may not realise it or refer to it as a goal. Still, the reality is you accomplish nothing without a goal, however well (or poorly!) defined that goal is.

How do goals work?

“If you set your goals ridiculously high and it’s a failure, you will fail above everyone else’s success.”

James Cameron

Goals work by activating your reticular activating system (RAS). This part of your brain focuses the mind on what’s important. So, when we program it with something as powerful as a goal, we unlock a powerful weapon that is now armed to look for connections to help move us forward to our desired future — your conscious and subconscious working to help you achieve your goal.

A great example of how the RAS works is when you want a new car, not necessarily brand new, but new to you. When you decide on the make, model and colour, your RAS starts looking, and suddenly, you notice many cars that match the one you are looking to buy. Were they there before, or have they just appeared?

What do goals need to make them work?

“All successful people have a goal. No one can get anywhere unless he knows where he wants to go and what he wants to be or do.”

Norman Vincent Peale

For goals to work, they need five ingredients:

  1. Something specific to achieve, have or become.
  2. A measure to determine when you have accomplished it.
  3. A time scale to focus your mind.
  4. A relevance or importance — otherwise, why bother?
  5. A level of confidence that you can achieve your goal.

You probably recognise this is the goal-defining technique — SMART, but you may not notice that we believe the order should be different.

Graham explains why the order of SMART should be different in this video.

A great way to look at goals is to use the goldilocks effect:

  • Too easy, and you will be uninspired.
  • Too hard, and you will give up easily.
  • Aim for just right, stretching enough to make it worthwhile and meaningful but not too easy that it fails to get you up for it.

Why do they say writing your goals down is so important?

“If they are not written down, they’re just dreams. When you write things down, it sets off a chain of events that will change your life.”

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Writing your goals down forms a conscious reinforcement and commitment to your goal. Your memory will never be stronger than the written word, so it removes wriggle room, preventing you from rewriting history later down the line.

Writing goals down has many benefits:

  • It channels our motivation and forces us to think carefully about what is important to us.
  • It helps us prioritise, set goals and determine why they’re important to us and activates our conscious mind.
  • Writing them down allows them to seep into the subconscious, enabling us to make connections and recognise thoughts and actions that contribute towards our goals, even when we are not actively thinking about them.
  • It is a constant reminder (provided that we revisit it regularly) and helps the RAS look for connections.

You could take it to another level, like one of our valued clients who took their commitment a step further. They externalised their goals, not just with their partner, their boss or other work colleagues (assuming they have); they shared them on LinkedIn! What better way to demonstrate your commitment to your goals?

Externalising your goal with others elevates your commitment and is a valuable driving force when things get tough. It also means that others can support, help and even make connections for you. And let’s face it; there’s nothing quite like the psychology of public commitment to get us to act congruently with our words.

What types of goals are there?

For us, goals fall into one of four types:

  1. Those you can quantify and measure, for example, financial, process or service improvement.
  2. Those that are subjective or qualitative, for example, team morale, relationships and feelings.
  3. Those that are big, complex and made up of many parts like projects and programmes.
  4. Those that are visions or aspirational goals, for example, company visions like Apple, who want to ‘make a ding in the universe’.

But what happens when we’re given a goal we don’t want?

“Imposing a goal on someone is like placing all your chips on black 13 and expecting it to come in — you leave the outcome to fate.”

It happens all the time in the workplace, but if it’s something we don’t want to do or don’t feel is important, it may never happen. For a goal to be achievable, we need to believe in it.

If you, like me, have ever had a goal imposed upon you, it’s not a great feeling and certainly not motivational. Especially when that goal is uninspiring or too demanding, this leaves you with a sense of reluctant acceptance, and I’ll give it a go — hardly a recipe for a successful outcome.

How could you help your people take on new goals?

“A goal set for or imposed on others is not truly owned by them without involvement, a compelling purpose and commitment.”

You can help your people with new goals in several ways, but they may take more time than simply handing goals out at the beginning of the new year or quarter. Goals are more likely to be accepted if you involve your people in defining them and explaining their purpose and what makes them crucial to the organisation.

We recommend investing the time upfront; it will save you loads of time later, build stronger commitment and inspire your people.

  1. Share the big-picture goals with your people and involve them in the goal-defining process; they will surprise you with their ambition!
  2. Set the frame and allow them to define their goal. Your role is to coach them to get clarity, ensure it aligns with the big picture goals, help them find personal meaning and begin building the plan with some creative thinking that explores ideas, resources and potential obstacles.
  3. If the goal has to be imposed, at least spend time with them to understand their mindset — is it helpful, or are they having doubts? Encourage them to surface their unhelpful thoughts and explore them. How many assumptions are they making? How many are founded on incorrect or outdated information? How many are valid concerns? How could you help them? Well, as is #2 above, coach them — your job is to set them up for success!

How do you define your goals?

You may already have some goals, but they may not yet be fully formed; they may be just ideas. What they need — is bringing life and adding a bit of detail — even a bit of colour to provide clarity, purpose and belief.

It doesn’t matter if your goals are personal or work-related; the process is the same:

Get clarity:

  • What specifically do you want to have, achieve or become?
  • How will you measure your success? What evidence will you provide to demonstrate that you have accomplished your goal?
  • By when will you have achieved your goal? The date should be an exact calendar date as you see on the front page of a newspaper.

Have a strong purpose:

  • Considering everything you have on your plate, what makes this goal so important to you?
  • Assuming you haven’t got a Time-Turner like Hermione Granger (Harry Potter) and access to time travel, what are you prepared to give up to achieve this goal?

Have belief:

  • How confident are you that you can achieve this goal with the time and resources at your disposal?
  • How will you manage dips in confidence as you pursue your goal?

Ultimately, look to get your goal into a single sentence:

‘By [insert exact calendar date], I will [insert specific outcome you intend to accomplish] as measured by [insert how you will prove you have achieved it, what will you show?].

You should then add two benchmark scores:

On a scale of 1–10, where 10 is high, how important is this goal in relation to everything else you have going on? [insert your score/10]

Recognise that a score of 10 means it is the most important thing in your life right now. Also, if your score is four or less, it is unlikely to get prioritised highly enough to focus on it.

On a scale of 1–10, where 10 is high, how confident are you that you can achieve your goal? [insert your score/10]

You are not looking for a 10/10 here, which might suggest your goal is too easy (remember, Goldilocks); you are ideally looking for a six or higher confidence score. However, if you score four or less, you should review the size of the goal or consider extending the timeline.

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Wishing you a successful year in pursuing and achieving your goals.

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Did you get creative and explore the art of the possible?

Ask yourself…

  • Did I create many ideas that I could choose from, possible things I could do, and ideas of the kind of things I might need.
  • Did I think about the things that might get in my way and how to overcome them?

Why are my people not stepping up?

As a leader, you cast a shadow. It may be unintentional, but it is inevitable. In your role as the ‘boss’, the ‘Grand Fromage’ (big cheese), the top banana, you create a range of perceptions for people that casts a shadow. A shadow is made up of a collection of helpful and unhelpful thoughts, it’s the lens through which your people attempt to interpret what you stand for and what you really want from them. Your shadow is how you are seen and become known – it’s your reputation.

A shadow is made up of a collection of helpful and unhelpful thoughts, it’s the lens through which your people attempt to interpret what you stand for and what you really want from them.

Leadership shadows can be fantastic, but they can also be destructive.

Let’s consider a leadership shadow that isn’t working. You, the person, may be reasonable (well, most of the time) and impatient—yes, but reasonable. You hired your people to do a job, but they are not stepping up for some reason. If your shadow creates doubt or uncertainty in your people, they will look for reassurance that they are doing a good job and getting it right.

Your tendency, though, is to step in and poke around to get the confidence and reassurance you need that they have it covered. So, when you lack confidence and need reassurance, you poke further, ask more searching questions, and start to dig deeper.

Do you see the problem? You both want confidence and reassurance.

But, if your leadership shadow causes uncertainty, you will unlikely get the confidence and reassurance you crave. When your people feel uncertain, they may pause and not want to expose a perceived weakness; you are their boss! As the boss, you decide people’s future. People don’t want to give their boss any cause for concern. And so, inertia reigns; they pause, fret, slow down, and, inevitably, are scared to fail.

When your people feel uncertain, they may pause; they may not want to expose a perceived weakness.

And so, the perpetual cycle begins as they wait for the leader to provide direction and guidance; as the boss, you feel the need to check and search for comfort. This feeling leads to resentment; as people start to question your trust and faith in them, you as the leader start to question whether your team are up to it; you’re not seeing them stepping up!

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We call this the leadership vacuum; it emerges as a void between leaders and their reports. Learned helplessness leads to inertia and causes frustration. Leaders want their people to step up, and direct reports often want their leaders to set the directions and get out of their way.

The solution to this problem requires a change in behaviours from both.

As a leader, you need to create the headroom for your people to step up. That means being prepared to give before taking, and trusting your people. When you trust people and communicate that trust clearly and openly, you can begin the dialogue and establish the behaviours that fill the vacuum — creating safety where people can fail safely and not question themselves about their own self-worth in your eyes as their leader. To paraphrase Brene Brown, author of Dare to Lead, ‘let’s teach them to land before you ask them to jump’. This environment of trust enables learning and creates the space to test assumptions and expectations without concern.

When you trust people and communicate that trust clearly and openly, you can begin the dialogue and establish the behaviours that fill the vacuum.

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Your people need to step into the void and take a risk, enter the growth zone and trust you to have their backs. This leap, however, won’t happen until you put your trust in them. Until you communicate clearly about what you expect and work together to define how they might do it, and then crucially, get out of their way and let them get on with it.

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Whichever role you’re in, it takes a leap of faith. It will take some coaching, regular discussion, and check-ins. You’re both looking for new behaviours that provide you with confidence and reassurance for it to become your new normal. It will take a little time to change your “go-to” behaviours of poking around to look for the certainty you need.

But, as with most things, if you want your people to step up – that journey begins with you!

Thinking Focus are behavioural change experts in the workplace. We believe that individuals, teams and business units underperform, not by choice, but because they can’t get out of their own way. We help individuals, teams, and business units challenge mindsets to unlock untapped and hidden potential and become more effective and productive.

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Change in the workplace needs managing, and having access to powerful change tools is a great start when helping people navigate change in the workplace.

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